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First #badhair day 
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First #badhair day
#tbt
#ineedacomb #whostakingpictures #shouldbebrushingmyhair

He’s Just Not Feeling You


He loves me, he loves me not…he loves me, he loves me not…

Love can be deceiving, or can it? Well it can be if you don’t pay attention. We’ve all been there - been with someone that we had nooooo business being with, but stayed because we “loved” them. The problem is not whether or not you care for or love the other person (you already know the answer to that), but the question is how do they feel about you? How do you know if they have feelings for you? Love you? Whitney said it’s in his kiss…WRONG! It’s in his actions.

“When a person shows you who they are, believe them.” -Maya Angelou

Here are a few things I’ve learned over the years to help you identify if your love interest is just NOT that into you. Unfortunately, I’ve either learned these things the hard way or watched my friends learn them the hard way…in either case the lessons have been learned! Remember it’s a journey; don’t judge me LOL.

 In no particular order:

1. You do all the work

The only time you go out or spend any time together is when you ask him. The only time he texts or calls is when he’s replying to your text(s) and/or voicemail(s). If he rarely, if ever, initiates anything, that should be a huge red flag.

He seems indifferent or regularly cancels plans. He has no problem cancelling on you because he’s tired, busy, doesn’t feel good, he has to walk his dog, he’s gaming online, blah, blah, blah.

If he does invite you somewhere, but seems indifferent to whether or not you actually show up…girl bye! Make other plans IMMEDIATELY and leave him alone.



2. You’re friends with benefits or just his booty call

You hang out all the time and you spend time with him and his friends but he’s never introduced you as his woman…basically, you’re the homie in public but you give up the goodies in private…you’re probably just a friend with benefits.

If the only time you spend together is when you guys are gettin’ it in…you already know. You’re more valuable than that, and you deserve more. Don’t lie to yourself or make excuses for being a booty call. At least just call it what it is.

3. You’re dating and dating and dating…and dating…

You’re dating but things are not progressing, or he’s dating you, her, and her. If that’s the case, then he’s just not interested in buying the goods you’re selling, or he doesn’t have to buy because you’re giving it away for free. And in that case please re-asses your marketing strategies ASAP!

Women we like to shop. We go to the mall just to browse and see what’s out. Men go in, get what they need, and get out. If he’s not clear about what his intentions are, then he’s not serious about you. He can say whatever he wants. Listen to what he says, and watch what he does. If he says he wants to be with you, but he’s not trying to lock you down - meaning his actions don’t match the words that are coming out of his mouth - then he’s not serious about you…and you shouldn’t take what he says seriously. NEXT!

4. You’re committed but he cheats

C’mon now…does this really need an explanation? If you truly believe that a man can be into you, care about you, love you, and still cheat, please message me ASAP! I will be the friend you need…the one who cares enough to tell you the truth. You can do better. I promise. If you don’t believe you can do better, please skip forward to the section that starts with, “So you realize that he’s just not that into you…now what?

5. You’re best friends

This one can get tricky, but not really. Friends make the best lovers (at least that’s what I’ve heard). It’s easy for lines to get blurred when you’re friends because you’re comfortable with one another, no one’s guard is up, and you really get to see the person for who they are. HOWEVER, if he doesn’t make a move (even after you’ve dropped hints that you’d like more) and he continues to date other women…sorry boo…chances are you’re just the homie.

Now men aren’t mind readers, and you may just need to tell him how you feel. Perhaps he’s just as nervous that taking things further can ruin the friendship, and he doesn’t want to make you uncomfortable. You can be bold and make the first move. Whatever the motives are, once you put yourself out there and he doesn’t give you a definitive answer about how he feels…then that is your answer. Remember, you guys are friends, so if anyone knows how amazing you are it should be him. You may not want to hear it, but he’s just not into you.

6. He’s hot and cold

He plays games with you - one week he can’t get enough of you and the next week he acts like you don’t exist. That’s because you don’t. If he really cares about you, then out of sight doesn’t mean out of mind.

7. He tells you he’s not interested in you

This is not a challenge! STOP. No seriously, girl he’s telling you the truth. I don’t know why we as women see this as a commissioning to help a man get out of his own way in order to see the fabulous woman that you are, but it needs to stop. Let’s think smarter, not harder. Take him at his word, and let the truth set you free.



So you realize that he’s just not that into you…now what?

1. Be ambitious, not thirsty

Focus on yourself. You’re single so use this time to get yourself together. Learn what you like and don’t like. Not only is this going to build your self-confidence and self-worth, but it will help you weed out those who aren’t deserving of your time and who isn’t going to compliment you in the long run. Your time is valuable; once you spend it you will never get it back. Don’t allow people to occupy space in your life when they’re not going to help you become a better you. Don’t waste your time.

2. Take personal responsibility for your part

It takes two to tango. I don’t care if that man was busted and disgusted; took you to hell and back. You played a part. You chose to be with him, stay with him, you allowed him to treat you a certain way, etc. You have to take inventory of you. Figure out your role and own it. Apologize and ask for forgiveness as necessary.

3. Learn to forgive

First, forgive others for any hurt they may have caused you (whether they own up to it and apologize or not). Forgiveness is for you, not them. Second, forgive yourself. Don’t beat yourself up for the decisions you’ve made. Learn from them and move on. Now that you know better, do better. You don’t want to take all of that hurt, anger, and bitterness into a new relationship. You could meet Mr. Right, but you won’t be ready and you could end up being Mrs. Wrong.

4. Love you some you

You can’t expect anyone else to love you if you don’t first love yourself. Plus, the world learns how to treat you by how you treat yourself. How do you want to be treated?

5. Learn your worth

If you know what you bring to the table and you understand your value, you won’t settle for less than what you deserve. Moreover, you’ll notice that you’ll begin to attract what you put out. Carry yourself like a queen, and you’re sure to attract a king and then some. Only this time you’ll recognize a king when you see him, and weeding out the imposters will be a piece of cake.

6. PRAY

Jesus knows whatchu need honey! LOL I’m not kidding. For those who believe in God, you know that no one knows a man’s heart better than his creator. Pray and ask God to 1) prepare you to be someone’s wife, 2) prepare your husband for you; and 3) send the right man for you in His timing.

7. Be patient

Hahahaha I have to laugh because this is probably the hardest for us all. But it’s true. Sometimes you just have to wait and it sucks! But the truth is you’re worth waiting for, and a man who is husband material is too. Stay busy, stay focused, get ready, and in God’s timing you will meet your king.



Remember, people will treat you how you let them. Don’t settle for being a side-piece, mistress, friend with benefits, or a booty call. You deserve to be valued, sought after, and cherished. Be patient. Work on being the woman you want to be. Don’t be so anxious to get to a destination, especially when you haven’t done any of the preparation. Some things take time. Enjoy the journey!

Ohhhh is that whatchu had said? #mybad #saynotoratchetness #sayyestorighteousness #jesustakethewheel

Ohhhh is that whatchu had said? #mybad #saynotoratchetness #sayyestorighteousness #jesustakethewheel

Fit is the New Skinny

I have never been skinny a day in my life. As far as I can remember, and according to my baby pictures, I have always had extra “goodness” to hold onto.  I grew up living an active lifestyle, and by active I mean we had to go outside and play; we weren’t allowed to just sit around and play video games all day. And although I grew up playing organized sports, riding bikes, swimming all day during the summer, walking to/from school, dancing, doing household chores & yard work, and so on, I remained overweight. 

I’m thankful that I was taught to love myself for who I was as a person. I was taught that there is more value in my work ethic, integrity, how I treat other people, and being self-sufficient than there is in my physical appearance, so I didn’t consider being “full-figured” to negatively affect my self-esteem. Over the years as I grew to develop and love myself, I don’t think anyone knew just how unhappy I was and much I didn’t like being overweight. And I didn’t realize, until recently, that being overweight did affect my self-esteem - it was an expression, or lack there of, of self-love that I had not yet tapped into….that part is deep y’all and deserves to be its own blog lol. to be continued (dot, dot, dot)

Anywho…I tried just about EVERYTHING to lose weight. I tried working out like crazy, starving myself…like literally eating one meal day if that, eating only salads, drinking only smoothies, cutting carbs, and every other fad diet. Of course none of the methods were healthy, and I do not recommend them to anyone. They will, however, work but only temporarily because the methods are not sustainable. Any weight I lost eventually came back once I went back to my old habits. Actually, I often gained back my weight and then some….boooooo to weight gain! If you’ve been there or are there then you know just how real the struggle is.  

Almost six years ago, I saw a picture of myself, and I was the heaviest I have ever been. I was embarrassed, angry, and disgusted. I was tired of going up and down; trying and failing; losing weight and then gaining it all back. I needed to change, but I didn’t know how. The real change though came when I had an epiphany - my body is my temple, and if I truly love myself, then I should love myself enough to take care of my temple. In order to do that, I realized that I needed to think about health and fitness differently and I needed to develop new habits. That’s when I started researching and learning what and how to create new habits to live differently. 

I heard about “eating clean” and living a fit lifestyle, but I was like, “Yea okay. That’s for olympic athletes, freaks of nature, and people who obviously don’t like food.” I grew up on soul food, fast food, and processed boxed food like a normal American. Eating clean was for “other people,” but not for me. But I tried it anyways, because I’m just that person. I almost wanted to try it just to prove it wouldn’t work. And you know what? The more I learned, the more I began to make small changes, the better I began to feel, and I started seeing results. It didn’t happen overnight. I still went up and down. I started good habits and then went back to my old ones. I made excuses for myself, and then beat myself up for not doing better. But I’m not a quitter. After literally years of struggling, I just said, “No more excuses. If you really want to be different Taunya Marie, then do it. Stop talking about it, and do it.” So here I am.

I changed my focus from short-term results on a scale to developing habits I could live with day-to-day for the rest of my life. I made health and fitness a priority in my life and incorporated them into my long-term goals. It’s not just about working out or just about eating clean. But it’s about staying active and feeding your body food it can actually digest. I have short-term fitness goals too. I’m a goal oriented person, and setting goals are what get me through the day. Seriously! If I don’t have a goal or a to-do list I feel lost. 

While I have not yet accomplished my short-term fitness goals, as far as weight loss goes, I have made huge strides. I’ve not only been consistent with my new habits for the last six months, which is the longest I’ve ever been consistent. In the past I would’ve lasted 2 months, at best! And please keep in mind that it took me over 5 years to learn, practice, try and fail, and start and stop before I was able to break my 2 month commitment barrier. Nonetheless, I’m down over 50 pounds, and I’ve lost over 6 inches on my waist. I still have more to go, but I’m proud of the accomplishments I’ve made. I feel better than I ever have, and I can’t imagine myself going back to my old habits. I believe that by staying consistent my results will only be exponential, and I’m looking forward to seeing changes.



But my greatest accomplishment…not giving up on myself. Even when I wanted to give up on myself, God continued to wake me up in the morning; giving me another chance to give it another go. I’m still learning and growing, but that’s the journey. You have to know that you’re worth being loved, and that starts with you loving you - the whole you! 

Fit is the New Skinny

I have never been skinny a day in my life. As far as I can remember, and according to my baby pictures, I have always had extra “goodness” to hold onto.  I grew up living an active lifestyle, and by active I mean we had to go outside and play; we weren’t allowed to just sit around and play video games all day. And although I grew up playing organized sports, riding bikes, swimming all day during the summer, walking to/from school, dancing, doing household chores & yard work, and so on, I remained overweight. 

I’m thankful that I was taught to love myself for who I was as a person. I was taught that there is more value in my work ethic, integrity, how I treat other people, and being self-sufficient than there is in my physical appearance, so I didn’t consider being “full-figured” to negatively affect my self-esteem. Over the years as I grew to develop and love myself, I don’t think anyone knew just how unhappy I was and much I didn’t like being overweight. And I didn’t realize, until recently, that being overweight did affect my self-esteem - it was an expression, or lack there of, of self-love that I had not yet tapped into….that part is deep y’all and deserves to be its own blog lol. to be continued (dot, dot, dot)

Anywho…I tried just about EVERYTHING to lose weight. I tried working out like crazy, starving myself…like literally eating one meal day if that, eating only salads, drinking only smoothies, cutting carbs, and every other fad diet. Of course none of the methods were healthy, and I do not recommend them to anyone. They will, however, work but only temporarily because the methods are not sustainable. Any weight I lost eventually came back once I went back to my old habits. Actually, I often gained back my weight and then some….boooooo to weight gain! If you’ve been there or are there then you know just how real the struggle is.  

Almost six years ago, I saw a picture of myself, and I was the heaviest I have ever been. I was embarrassed, angry, and disgusted. I was tired of going up and down; trying and failing; losing weight and then gaining it all back. I needed to change, but I didn’t know how. The real change though came when I had an epiphany - my body is my temple, and if I truly love myself, then I should love myself enough to take care of my temple. In order to do that, I realized that I needed to think about health and fitness differently and I needed to develop new habits. That’s when I started researching and learning what and how to create new habits to live differently. 

I heard about “eating clean” and living a fit lifestyle, but I was like, “Yea okay. That’s for olympic athletes, freaks of nature, and people who obviously don’t like food.” I grew up on soul food, fast food, and processed boxed food like a normal American. Eating clean was for “other people,” but not for me. But I tried it anyways, because I’m just that person. I almost wanted to try it just to prove it wouldn’t work. And you know what? The more I learned, the more I began to make small changes, the better I began to feel, and I started seeing results. It didn’t happen overnight. I still went up and down. I started good habits and then went back to my old ones. I made excuses for myself, and then beat myself up for not doing better. But I’m not a quitter. After literally years of struggling, I just said, “No more excuses. If you really want to be different Taunya Marie, then do it. Stop talking about it, and do it.” So here I am.

I changed my focus from short-term results on a scale to developing habits I could live with day-to-day for the rest of my life. I made health and fitness a priority in my life and incorporated them into my long-term goals. It’s not just about working out or just about eating clean. But it’s about staying active and feeding your body food it can actually digest. I have short-term fitness goals too. I’m a goal oriented person, and setting goals are what get me through the day. Seriously! If I don’t have a goal or a to-do list I feel lost. 

While I have not yet accomplished my short-term fitness goals, as far as weight loss goes, I have made huge strides. I’ve not only been consistent with my new habits for the last six months, which is the longest I’ve ever been consistent. In the past I would’ve lasted 2 months, at best! And please keep in mind that it took me over 5 years to learn, practice, try and fail, and start and stop before I was able to break my 2 month commitment barrier. Nonetheless, I’m down over 50 pounds, and I’ve lost over 6 inches on my waist. I still have more to go, but I’m proud of the accomplishments I’ve made. I feel better than I ever have, and I can’t imagine myself going back to my old habits. I believe that by staying consistent my results will only be exponential, and I’m looking forward to seeing changes.



But my greatest accomplishment…not giving up on myself. Even when I wanted to give up on myself, God continued to wake me up in the morning; giving me another chance to give it another go. I’m still learning and growing, but that’s the journey. You have to know that you’re worth being loved, and that starts with you loving you - the whole you! 

Hey guys! I started a blog. Link is in my bio. 

Join me on my journey to live a lifestyle of absolute wellness - physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. These are my blogs to inspire, motivate, and encourage you to live your dream. Oh yea, and I like to share beauty tips, recipes, and other random stuff like that too.

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Hey guys! I started a blog. Link is in my bio.

Join me on my journey to live a lifestyle of absolute wellness - physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. These are my blogs to inspire, motivate, and encourage you to live your dream. Oh yea, and I like to share beauty tips, recipes, and other random stuff like that too.

New blogs every week: 2taunyamarie.com

If you can dig it…SUBSCRIBE, LIKE & SHARE…Thank You.

💋 Smooches 💋

It’s Now or Never

Hello all!

It’s taken quite some time for me to get over my fear of putting myself out there, but I figured it’s now or never.

I’m on a journey to live a lifestyle of absolute wellness - physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. I’m pushing myself outside of my comfort zone and challenging myself to overcome my fears. After all, tomorrow isn’t promised. Living a life of purpose and striving everyday to be the best version of yourself always sounds fabulous in theory…doing it though? Well, you already know. Everyday we wake up is God’s way of saying, “Yesterday may not have gone so well, but I’m going to let you try that again.” LOL 

I hope my blogs inspire, motivate, and encourage you to live your dream - your God given purpose in life. Oh yea, and I like to share beauty tips, recipes, and other random stuff like that too.

Smooches Xo

Why You Need Tea Tree Oil in Your Skincare Regiment!

Okay, I’m not exactly excited to admit that at 32 years young I still have occasional breakouts for one reason or another. Ugh! Super irritating. Anywho…I know I’m not the only one. Besides, who doesn’t want clear skin at any age? Well if you haven’t heard of tea tree oil, please allow me to introduce you to your new BFF. If you’ve heard of it or you use it, then I know I’m getting an “Amen Sista!” right about now.



What is Tea Tree Oil:

Tea tree oil is an essential oil that comes from a plant (Melaleuca Alternifolia) native to Australia and has been used for its healing properties for hundreds of years. It’s not found in foods, and should not be ingested. 

Why it works:

When applied topically, it’s known for it’s anti-fungal, antiseptic, and even antibiotic properties. It’s an amazing natural alternative to treating breakouts and acne because, unlike other acne treatments, it won’t strip your skin of it’s natural oils - causing further damage.

How to use it:

There are literally hundreds of uses for tea tree oil. Here are my 3 favorite that you can easily add to your skincare regime:

  1. Spot Treatment - Wash and moisturize face as normal. Add a couple of drops to a q-tip and apply directly to breakout(s). You can also dilute the tea tree oil by wetting the q-tip with water before/after applying the oil. Apply at night and wake up to clear skin. Note: it may take more than one application depending on your skin.
  2. Face Mask - You can add a few drops to your favorite face mask or make your own. Try adding 4-6 drops to 1/4 of a cup of plain yogurt. Mix well and apply as mask to a clean face. Let sit for approx. 20 min. and then wash off with warm water. Moisturize as usual. 
  3. Facial & Body Scrub - MY FAV! In a bowl mix: 1/4 cup of sugar, 1/4 cup of EVOO, 1 tsp raw honey, and 10 drops of tea tree oil. Mix together with a fork. Apply to a clean face and gently scrub for approx. 2 min., and then rinse with warm water. You can also use in the shower as a body scrub. I promise you, not only will this help clear up your skin, but your skin is going to feel like BUTTAH! 

Bonus:

It’s great for men and women…ingrown hairs after shaving? Just add tea tree oil to a cotton ball and apply to affected area. BOOM! 

Disclaimer…I am NOT an esthetician or a physician. If you are not sure whether tea tree oil is safe for you, please do your research and consult your physician before using. 

Single(ish)

Every woman who has ever gone to get a manicure/pedicure is well versed in what I call the “Nail Shop Talk.” Anjelah Johnson probably does the most accurate and hilarious rendition EVER. Click here to see it. So I go to get my nails done the other day, and of course she asks me…

Her - You married?

Me - No.

Her - You have boyfriend?

Me - No, no…not yet *cue awkward & phony laugh*

Her - Oh Hunnay! You must be picky. That’s why you don’t have boyfriend.

Me - Hahaha *inside thoughts* How about you mind your business and focus on these cuticles! Thank you very much. Am I paying for relationship advice or is that on the house? No? Oh, okay LOL

Of course I would never say that, and I know she meant it to be a compliment. In any case, I am not picky! Okay, maybe I am just a little bit hahaha. But that’s neither here nor there. The point is, it got me to thinking, and I realized that there is a lot of pressure for people (especially women) to be in a relationship. There’s an expectation that if you’re in you’re late 20’s, 30’s, and definitely 40’s on up that you should be married. And if you’re not, there MUST be something wrong with you. Like if you’re 35 or older and single, you’re either crazy or secretly still in the closet.

My question is why is that? Why must something be wrong with someone if they’re in their 30’s and single? I’m curious to know your thoughts. Leave your comments below, and I will follow up with another post. In the meantime, here are some of my thoughts:

  1. The divorce rate in the US is over 50%. Now why would I rush into something that I have the utmost respect for? I see marriage as something to be revered, honored, and it’s nothing to play with. As I see it, I need time to prepare. And with those statistics…I can wait. 
  2. Let’s say I meet someone, fall in love, and get married tomorrow. Then let’s say I live another 60 years. That’s 60 years of marriage; 32 years of being single. Actually, less than that if you start counting from the time you can actually date - so about 16 years of being single vs. 60 years of marriage. When you look at it that way, shouldn’t I take as much time as possible to enjoy my singleness? Again, I can wait.
  3. This is just my theory. One of the reasons why I feel people get divorced is because they don’t know who they are. They’re an incomplete person trying to fill a void and a sense of completion with marriage. Living with someone 24/7, sharing and building a life with that person without committing a crime seems like a miracle in itself. Why not use my time being single, to get to know me. Love me. Develop and cultivate me. Become the best version of me that I can be emotionally, spiritually, mentally, financially, and physically. Let God complete me. That way when I do meet that one…I’ll be in a much better position to not just get married, but stay married. 

What do you guys think? Can two people get married and stay married? How should you spend your time as a single person? Is there a timeframe for being single and getting prepared? Can you wait too long?

Some things are just #black & #white #Xo 💋

Some things are just #black & #white #Xo 💋

#Gonebutnotforgotten #Celebrating a #beautifullife. I thank God I was able to call you my brother. #Loveyou #Jesusisreal #WJ30

#Gonebutnotforgotten #Celebrating a #beautifullife. I thank God I was able to call you my brother. #Loveyou #Jesusisreal #WJ30

First #badhair day 
#tbt
#ineedacomb #whostakingpictures #shouldbebrushingmyhair

First #badhair day
#tbt
#ineedacomb #whostakingpictures #shouldbebrushingmyhair

He’s Just Not Feeling You


He loves me, he loves me not…he loves me, he loves me not…

Love can be deceiving, or can it? Well it can be if you don’t pay attention. We’ve all been there - been with someone that we had nooooo business being with, but stayed because we “loved” them. The problem is not whether or not you care for or love the other person (you already know the answer to that), but the question is how do they feel about you? How do you know if they have feelings for you? Love you? Whitney said it’s in his kiss…WRONG! It’s in his actions.

“When a person shows you who they are, believe them.” -Maya Angelou

Here are a few things I’ve learned over the years to help you identify if your love interest is just NOT that into you. Unfortunately, I’ve either learned these things the hard way or watched my friends learn them the hard way…in either case the lessons have been learned! Remember it’s a journey; don’t judge me LOL.

 In no particular order:

1. You do all the work

The only time you go out or spend any time together is when you ask him. The only time he texts or calls is when he’s replying to your text(s) and/or voicemail(s). If he rarely, if ever, initiates anything, that should be a huge red flag.

He seems indifferent or regularly cancels plans. He has no problem cancelling on you because he’s tired, busy, doesn’t feel good, he has to walk his dog, he’s gaming online, blah, blah, blah.

If he does invite you somewhere, but seems indifferent to whether or not you actually show up…girl bye! Make other plans IMMEDIATELY and leave him alone.



2. You’re friends with benefits or just his booty call

You hang out all the time and you spend time with him and his friends but he’s never introduced you as his woman…basically, you’re the homie in public but you give up the goodies in private…you’re probably just a friend with benefits.

If the only time you spend together is when you guys are gettin’ it in…you already know. You’re more valuable than that, and you deserve more. Don’t lie to yourself or make excuses for being a booty call. At least just call it what it is.

3. You’re dating and dating and dating…and dating…

You’re dating but things are not progressing, or he’s dating you, her, and her. If that’s the case, then he’s just not interested in buying the goods you’re selling, or he doesn’t have to buy because you’re giving it away for free. And in that case please re-asses your marketing strategies ASAP!

Women we like to shop. We go to the mall just to browse and see what’s out. Men go in, get what they need, and get out. If he’s not clear about what his intentions are, then he’s not serious about you. He can say whatever he wants. Listen to what he says, and watch what he does. If he says he wants to be with you, but he’s not trying to lock you down - meaning his actions don’t match the words that are coming out of his mouth - then he’s not serious about you…and you shouldn’t take what he says seriously. NEXT!

4. You’re committed but he cheats

C’mon now…does this really need an explanation? If you truly believe that a man can be into you, care about you, love you, and still cheat, please message me ASAP! I will be the friend you need…the one who cares enough to tell you the truth. You can do better. I promise. If you don’t believe you can do better, please skip forward to the section that starts with, “So you realize that he’s just not that into you…now what?

5. You’re best friends

This one can get tricky, but not really. Friends make the best lovers (at least that’s what I’ve heard). It’s easy for lines to get blurred when you’re friends because you’re comfortable with one another, no one’s guard is up, and you really get to see the person for who they are. HOWEVER, if he doesn’t make a move (even after you’ve dropped hints that you’d like more) and he continues to date other women…sorry boo…chances are you’re just the homie.

Now men aren’t mind readers, and you may just need to tell him how you feel. Perhaps he’s just as nervous that taking things further can ruin the friendship, and he doesn’t want to make you uncomfortable. You can be bold and make the first move. Whatever the motives are, once you put yourself out there and he doesn’t give you a definitive answer about how he feels…then that is your answer. Remember, you guys are friends, so if anyone knows how amazing you are it should be him. You may not want to hear it, but he’s just not into you.

6. He’s hot and cold

He plays games with you - one week he can’t get enough of you and the next week he acts like you don’t exist. That’s because you don’t. If he really cares about you, then out of sight doesn’t mean out of mind.

7. He tells you he’s not interested in you

This is not a challenge! STOP. No seriously, girl he’s telling you the truth. I don’t know why we as women see this as a commissioning to help a man get out of his own way in order to see the fabulous woman that you are, but it needs to stop. Let’s think smarter, not harder. Take him at his word, and let the truth set you free.



So you realize that he’s just not that into you…now what?

1. Be ambitious, not thirsty

Focus on yourself. You’re single so use this time to get yourself together. Learn what you like and don’t like. Not only is this going to build your self-confidence and self-worth, but it will help you weed out those who aren’t deserving of your time and who isn’t going to compliment you in the long run. Your time is valuable; once you spend it you will never get it back. Don’t allow people to occupy space in your life when they’re not going to help you become a better you. Don’t waste your time.

2. Take personal responsibility for your part

It takes two to tango. I don’t care if that man was busted and disgusted; took you to hell and back. You played a part. You chose to be with him, stay with him, you allowed him to treat you a certain way, etc. You have to take inventory of you. Figure out your role and own it. Apologize and ask for forgiveness as necessary.

3. Learn to forgive

First, forgive others for any hurt they may have caused you (whether they own up to it and apologize or not). Forgiveness is for you, not them. Second, forgive yourself. Don’t beat yourself up for the decisions you’ve made. Learn from them and move on. Now that you know better, do better. You don’t want to take all of that hurt, anger, and bitterness into a new relationship. You could meet Mr. Right, but you won’t be ready and you could end up being Mrs. Wrong.

4. Love you some you

You can’t expect anyone else to love you if you don’t first love yourself. Plus, the world learns how to treat you by how you treat yourself. How do you want to be treated?

5. Learn your worth

If you know what you bring to the table and you understand your value, you won’t settle for less than what you deserve. Moreover, you’ll notice that you’ll begin to attract what you put out. Carry yourself like a queen, and you’re sure to attract a king and then some. Only this time you’ll recognize a king when you see him, and weeding out the imposters will be a piece of cake.

6. PRAY

Jesus knows whatchu need honey! LOL I’m not kidding. For those who believe in God, you know that no one knows a man’s heart better than his creator. Pray and ask God to 1) prepare you to be someone’s wife, 2) prepare your husband for you; and 3) send the right man for you in His timing.

7. Be patient

Hahahaha I have to laugh because this is probably the hardest for us all. But it’s true. Sometimes you just have to wait and it sucks! But the truth is you’re worth waiting for, and a man who is husband material is too. Stay busy, stay focused, get ready, and in God’s timing you will meet your king.



Remember, people will treat you how you let them. Don’t settle for being a side-piece, mistress, friend with benefits, or a booty call. You deserve to be valued, sought after, and cherished. Be patient. Work on being the woman you want to be. Don’t be so anxious to get to a destination, especially when you haven’t done any of the preparation. Some things take time. Enjoy the journey!

Ohhhh is that whatchu had said? #mybad #saynotoratchetness #sayyestorighteousness #jesustakethewheel

Ohhhh is that whatchu had said? #mybad #saynotoratchetness #sayyestorighteousness #jesustakethewheel

Fit is the New Skinny

I have never been skinny a day in my life. As far as I can remember, and according to my baby pictures, I have always had extra “goodness” to hold onto.  I grew up living an active lifestyle, and by active I mean we had to go outside and play; we weren’t allowed to just sit around and play video games all day. And although I grew up playing organized sports, riding bikes, swimming all day during the summer, walking to/from school, dancing, doing household chores & yard work, and so on, I remained overweight. 

I’m thankful that I was taught to love myself for who I was as a person. I was taught that there is more value in my work ethic, integrity, how I treat other people, and being self-sufficient than there is in my physical appearance, so I didn’t consider being “full-figured” to negatively affect my self-esteem. Over the years as I grew to develop and love myself, I don’t think anyone knew just how unhappy I was and much I didn’t like being overweight. And I didn’t realize, until recently, that being overweight did affect my self-esteem - it was an expression, or lack there of, of self-love that I had not yet tapped into….that part is deep y’all and deserves to be its own blog lol. to be continued (dot, dot, dot)

Anywho…I tried just about EVERYTHING to lose weight. I tried working out like crazy, starving myself…like literally eating one meal day if that, eating only salads, drinking only smoothies, cutting carbs, and every other fad diet. Of course none of the methods were healthy, and I do not recommend them to anyone. They will, however, work but only temporarily because the methods are not sustainable. Any weight I lost eventually came back once I went back to my old habits. Actually, I often gained back my weight and then some….boooooo to weight gain! If you’ve been there or are there then you know just how real the struggle is.  

Almost six years ago, I saw a picture of myself, and I was the heaviest I have ever been. I was embarrassed, angry, and disgusted. I was tired of going up and down; trying and failing; losing weight and then gaining it all back. I needed to change, but I didn’t know how. The real change though came when I had an epiphany - my body is my temple, and if I truly love myself, then I should love myself enough to take care of my temple. In order to do that, I realized that I needed to think about health and fitness differently and I needed to develop new habits. That’s when I started researching and learning what and how to create new habits to live differently. 

I heard about “eating clean” and living a fit lifestyle, but I was like, “Yea okay. That’s for olympic athletes, freaks of nature, and people who obviously don’t like food.” I grew up on soul food, fast food, and processed boxed food like a normal American. Eating clean was for “other people,” but not for me. But I tried it anyways, because I’m just that person. I almost wanted to try it just to prove it wouldn’t work. And you know what? The more I learned, the more I began to make small changes, the better I began to feel, and I started seeing results. It didn’t happen overnight. I still went up and down. I started good habits and then went back to my old ones. I made excuses for myself, and then beat myself up for not doing better. But I’m not a quitter. After literally years of struggling, I just said, “No more excuses. If you really want to be different Taunya Marie, then do it. Stop talking about it, and do it.” So here I am.

I changed my focus from short-term results on a scale to developing habits I could live with day-to-day for the rest of my life. I made health and fitness a priority in my life and incorporated them into my long-term goals. It’s not just about working out or just about eating clean. But it’s about staying active and feeding your body food it can actually digest. I have short-term fitness goals too. I’m a goal oriented person, and setting goals are what get me through the day. Seriously! If I don’t have a goal or a to-do list I feel lost. 

While I have not yet accomplished my short-term fitness goals, as far as weight loss goes, I have made huge strides. I’ve not only been consistent with my new habits for the last six months, which is the longest I’ve ever been consistent. In the past I would’ve lasted 2 months, at best! And please keep in mind that it took me over 5 years to learn, practice, try and fail, and start and stop before I was able to break my 2 month commitment barrier. Nonetheless, I’m down over 50 pounds, and I’ve lost over 6 inches on my waist. I still have more to go, but I’m proud of the accomplishments I’ve made. I feel better than I ever have, and I can’t imagine myself going back to my old habits. I believe that by staying consistent my results will only be exponential, and I’m looking forward to seeing changes.



But my greatest accomplishment…not giving up on myself. Even when I wanted to give up on myself, God continued to wake me up in the morning; giving me another chance to give it another go. I’m still learning and growing, but that’s the journey. You have to know that you’re worth being loved, and that starts with you loving you - the whole you! 

Fit is the New Skinny

I have never been skinny a day in my life. As far as I can remember, and according to my baby pictures, I have always had extra “goodness” to hold onto.  I grew up living an active lifestyle, and by active I mean we had to go outside and play; we weren’t allowed to just sit around and play video games all day. And although I grew up playing organized sports, riding bikes, swimming all day during the summer, walking to/from school, dancing, doing household chores & yard work, and so on, I remained overweight. 

I’m thankful that I was taught to love myself for who I was as a person. I was taught that there is more value in my work ethic, integrity, how I treat other people, and being self-sufficient than there is in my physical appearance, so I didn’t consider being “full-figured” to negatively affect my self-esteem. Over the years as I grew to develop and love myself, I don’t think anyone knew just how unhappy I was and much I didn’t like being overweight. And I didn’t realize, until recently, that being overweight did affect my self-esteem - it was an expression, or lack there of, of self-love that I had not yet tapped into….that part is deep y’all and deserves to be its own blog lol. to be continued (dot, dot, dot)

Anywho…I tried just about EVERYTHING to lose weight. I tried working out like crazy, starving myself…like literally eating one meal day if that, eating only salads, drinking only smoothies, cutting carbs, and every other fad diet. Of course none of the methods were healthy, and I do not recommend them to anyone. They will, however, work but only temporarily because the methods are not sustainable. Any weight I lost eventually came back once I went back to my old habits. Actually, I often gained back my weight and then some….boooooo to weight gain! If you’ve been there or are there then you know just how real the struggle is.  

Almost six years ago, I saw a picture of myself, and I was the heaviest I have ever been. I was embarrassed, angry, and disgusted. I was tired of going up and down; trying and failing; losing weight and then gaining it all back. I needed to change, but I didn’t know how. The real change though came when I had an epiphany - my body is my temple, and if I truly love myself, then I should love myself enough to take care of my temple. In order to do that, I realized that I needed to think about health and fitness differently and I needed to develop new habits. That’s when I started researching and learning what and how to create new habits to live differently. 

I heard about “eating clean” and living a fit lifestyle, but I was like, “Yea okay. That’s for olympic athletes, freaks of nature, and people who obviously don’t like food.” I grew up on soul food, fast food, and processed boxed food like a normal American. Eating clean was for “other people,” but not for me. But I tried it anyways, because I’m just that person. I almost wanted to try it just to prove it wouldn’t work. And you know what? The more I learned, the more I began to make small changes, the better I began to feel, and I started seeing results. It didn’t happen overnight. I still went up and down. I started good habits and then went back to my old ones. I made excuses for myself, and then beat myself up for not doing better. But I’m not a quitter. After literally years of struggling, I just said, “No more excuses. If you really want to be different Taunya Marie, then do it. Stop talking about it, and do it.” So here I am.

I changed my focus from short-term results on a scale to developing habits I could live with day-to-day for the rest of my life. I made health and fitness a priority in my life and incorporated them into my long-term goals. It’s not just about working out or just about eating clean. But it’s about staying active and feeding your body food it can actually digest. I have short-term fitness goals too. I’m a goal oriented person, and setting goals are what get me through the day. Seriously! If I don’t have a goal or a to-do list I feel lost. 

While I have not yet accomplished my short-term fitness goals, as far as weight loss goes, I have made huge strides. I’ve not only been consistent with my new habits for the last six months, which is the longest I’ve ever been consistent. In the past I would’ve lasted 2 months, at best! And please keep in mind that it took me over 5 years to learn, practice, try and fail, and start and stop before I was able to break my 2 month commitment barrier. Nonetheless, I’m down over 50 pounds, and I’ve lost over 6 inches on my waist. I still have more to go, but I’m proud of the accomplishments I’ve made. I feel better than I ever have, and I can’t imagine myself going back to my old habits. I believe that by staying consistent my results will only be exponential, and I’m looking forward to seeing changes.



But my greatest accomplishment…not giving up on myself. Even when I wanted to give up on myself, God continued to wake me up in the morning; giving me another chance to give it another go. I’m still learning and growing, but that’s the journey. You have to know that you’re worth being loved, and that starts with you loving you - the whole you! 

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Hey guys! I started a blog. Link is in my bio.

Join me on my journey to live a lifestyle of absolute wellness - physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. These are my blogs to inspire, motivate, and encourage you to live your dream. Oh yea, and I like to share beauty tips, recipes, and other random stuff like that too.

New blogs every week: 2taunyamarie.com

If you can dig it…SUBSCRIBE, LIKE & SHARE…Thank You.

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It’s Now or Never

Hello all!

It’s taken quite some time for me to get over my fear of putting myself out there, but I figured it’s now or never.

I’m on a journey to live a lifestyle of absolute wellness - physically, mentally, emotionally, and spiritually. I’m pushing myself outside of my comfort zone and challenging myself to overcome my fears. After all, tomorrow isn’t promised. Living a life of purpose and striving everyday to be the best version of yourself always sounds fabulous in theory…doing it though? Well, you already know. Everyday we wake up is God’s way of saying, “Yesterday may not have gone so well, but I’m going to let you try that again.” LOL 

I hope my blogs inspire, motivate, and encourage you to live your dream - your God given purpose in life. Oh yea, and I like to share beauty tips, recipes, and other random stuff like that too.

Smooches Xo

Why You Need Tea Tree Oil in Your Skincare Regiment!

Okay, I’m not exactly excited to admit that at 32 years young I still have occasional breakouts for one reason or another. Ugh! Super irritating. Anywho…I know I’m not the only one. Besides, who doesn’t want clear skin at any age? Well if you haven’t heard of tea tree oil, please allow me to introduce you to your new BFF. If you’ve heard of it or you use it, then I know I’m getting an “Amen Sista!” right about now.



What is Tea Tree Oil:

Tea tree oil is an essential oil that comes from a plant (Melaleuca Alternifolia) native to Australia and has been used for its healing properties for hundreds of years. It’s not found in foods, and should not be ingested. 

Why it works:

When applied topically, it’s known for it’s anti-fungal, antiseptic, and even antibiotic properties. It’s an amazing natural alternative to treating breakouts and acne because, unlike other acne treatments, it won’t strip your skin of it’s natural oils - causing further damage.

How to use it:

There are literally hundreds of uses for tea tree oil. Here are my 3 favorite that you can easily add to your skincare regime:

  1. Spot Treatment - Wash and moisturize face as normal. Add a couple of drops to a q-tip and apply directly to breakout(s). You can also dilute the tea tree oil by wetting the q-tip with water before/after applying the oil. Apply at night and wake up to clear skin. Note: it may take more than one application depending on your skin.
  2. Face Mask - You can add a few drops to your favorite face mask or make your own. Try adding 4-6 drops to 1/4 of a cup of plain yogurt. Mix well and apply as mask to a clean face. Let sit for approx. 20 min. and then wash off with warm water. Moisturize as usual. 
  3. Facial & Body Scrub - MY FAV! In a bowl mix: 1/4 cup of sugar, 1/4 cup of EVOO, 1 tsp raw honey, and 10 drops of tea tree oil. Mix together with a fork. Apply to a clean face and gently scrub for approx. 2 min., and then rinse with warm water. You can also use in the shower as a body scrub. I promise you, not only will this help clear up your skin, but your skin is going to feel like BUTTAH! 

Bonus:

It’s great for men and women…ingrown hairs after shaving? Just add tea tree oil to a cotton ball and apply to affected area. BOOM! 

Disclaimer…I am NOT an esthetician or a physician. If you are not sure whether tea tree oil is safe for you, please do your research and consult your physician before using. 

Single(ish)

Every woman who has ever gone to get a manicure/pedicure is well versed in what I call the “Nail Shop Talk.” Anjelah Johnson probably does the most accurate and hilarious rendition EVER. Click here to see it. So I go to get my nails done the other day, and of course she asks me…

Her - You married?

Me - No.

Her - You have boyfriend?

Me - No, no…not yet *cue awkward & phony laugh*

Her - Oh Hunnay! You must be picky. That’s why you don’t have boyfriend.

Me - Hahaha *inside thoughts* How about you mind your business and focus on these cuticles! Thank you very much. Am I paying for relationship advice or is that on the house? No? Oh, okay LOL

Of course I would never say that, and I know she meant it to be a compliment. In any case, I am not picky! Okay, maybe I am just a little bit hahaha. But that’s neither here nor there. The point is, it got me to thinking, and I realized that there is a lot of pressure for people (especially women) to be in a relationship. There’s an expectation that if you’re in you’re late 20’s, 30’s, and definitely 40’s on up that you should be married. And if you’re not, there MUST be something wrong with you. Like if you’re 35 or older and single, you’re either crazy or secretly still in the closet.

My question is why is that? Why must something be wrong with someone if they’re in their 30’s and single? I’m curious to know your thoughts. Leave your comments below, and I will follow up with another post. In the meantime, here are some of my thoughts:

  1. The divorce rate in the US is over 50%. Now why would I rush into something that I have the utmost respect for? I see marriage as something to be revered, honored, and it’s nothing to play with. As I see it, I need time to prepare. And with those statistics…I can wait. 
  2. Let’s say I meet someone, fall in love, and get married tomorrow. Then let’s say I live another 60 years. That’s 60 years of marriage; 32 years of being single. Actually, less than that if you start counting from the time you can actually date - so about 16 years of being single vs. 60 years of marriage. When you look at it that way, shouldn’t I take as much time as possible to enjoy my singleness? Again, I can wait.
  3. This is just my theory. One of the reasons why I feel people get divorced is because they don’t know who they are. They’re an incomplete person trying to fill a void and a sense of completion with marriage. Living with someone 24/7, sharing and building a life with that person without committing a crime seems like a miracle in itself. Why not use my time being single, to get to know me. Love me. Develop and cultivate me. Become the best version of me that I can be emotionally, spiritually, mentally, financially, and physically. Let God complete me. That way when I do meet that one…I’ll be in a much better position to not just get married, but stay married. 

What do you guys think? Can two people get married and stay married? How should you spend your time as a single person? Is there a timeframe for being single and getting prepared? Can you wait too long?

(Source: beyonce)

Some things are just #black & #white #Xo 💋

Some things are just #black & #white #Xo 💋

#Gonebutnotforgotten #Celebrating a #beautifullife. I thank God I was able to call you my brother. #Loveyou #Jesusisreal #WJ30

#Gonebutnotforgotten #Celebrating a #beautifullife. I thank God I was able to call you my brother. #Loveyou #Jesusisreal #WJ30

He’s Just Not Feeling You
Fit is the New Skinny
Fit is the New Skinny
It’s Now or Never
Why You Need Tea Tree Oil in Your Skincare Regiment!
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